I’ve read all your comments, some of them over and over again to be honest. Like I said, day 1 and day 2 were very different and way more calm. I only say “OMG, what was I THINKING??! And again at about 5am. She was nine years old, and had been living on the streets, for who knew how long. Tells me THIS IS MY DOG I HAVE TO HAVE THIS DOG. We are only 3 weeks in and it has been so much more difficult than I ever imagined. I want this dog to disappear. As much as I try to make him “listen” to me, if he has what he thinks is a better plan? She was right, it did. On the right is one of the breaks in the pines. We’ve gone through all the processes prescribed by the VB, but it’s only improved slightly. That maybe I’m not cut out for dog ownership. They look scary. My parents have offered to take her, but after much thought and convincing my fiancé to do this, and after announcing the addition to friends and family, I would feel so stupid for “giving up” that easily. She is a great dog. We’ve had trainers come to our house when he was making us nervous with our friends toddler (he just kept going to his face and licking him but would not stop! If you’ve gone to a reputable rescue, they should be able to tell you quite a lot about the specific dog’s character and needs. I don’t know what is going on and I”m feeling worried we have made a huge mistake. While it was overwhelming, the puppy didn’t do anything wrong. She and I have a bond born from trials and tribulations that couldn’t be stronger or deeper. He pulls back on the lead and/or stands still in addition to biting me or the lead, so it is very hard to distract him with momentum, changing direction or suggesting he looks at “something over here”. (They also keep people away from your dog, a blessing to many owners.) With full honesty, there were two dogs we were thinking of, and I’m not sure if subconsciously my husband is responding to the fact that she isn’t the other dog (who definitely would have been an easier dog). My collie never tired even though we walked her every day 5 times a day (6, 10, 2, 6, 10). I would talk to the group you got him from asap, or find a trainer to come in right away and do an assessment. I can’t understand why she didn’t come into the kitchen (where the door is) to see me, but just peed on the floor. I don't care anymore. Not sure I would adopt a “known” fearful dog again although now I have more tools in my tool kit. He’s a tabby point siamese with what I’m expecting will become a medium long coat. She received plenty of walks (3x / day), yet apparently would just go in the middle of the night anyway. One thing we do know is that apparently he loves other dogs. Ours has become a loving, well-adjusted, still slightly naughty joy of a dog who’s still learning to trust men he hasn’t met before. While he was in a better situation, it was not without problems. She’s never lived in a home before (former breeding dog with a home breeder who took decent care of the dogs). I was talking to a trainer friend of mine who observed his mental state and physical state do not align. In what quickly became a pattern of daily phone calls and emails, the canine behavioral psychologist sounded indignant when I questioned whether this middle-aged dog was, in fact, housebroken. I knew that when I took him in, but I feel pretty naive for thinking it wouldn’t be a big deal. ... Now I regret telling you to play with them, maybe you would have continued barking at them and they wouldn’t have taken you if I hadn’t done that. He’s got the makings of a truly great cat.”. I always thought I would have unconditional love for my new dog but I am freaking out. After over a year of looking for the perfect dog I have rescued a 2yo cross breed from another foster home. She has 1st hand, traumatic experience with TinTin, so bad that once one of her techs had to lay on the floor in a closet with TinTin to keep him calm. Sadly, several months later we learned that he had developed severe prostate cancer and had to be euthanized. She really wanted to please. I some how have a gut feeling that your approach is great. He’s going to get along great with other dogs, and I’ve dodged that bullet.” I thought we have found just the right dog to add to our family and how lucky we were. We made the painful personal decision to return him. My husband and I travel for most of the summer months in a motorhome. Here are some things I should have known but had to learn from our elder boy, from months and months of research, from dog trainers, and from an online forum that saved my sanity: All dogs need time to settle in when they get to a new home, even the most well-adjusted, well-loved ones. Give it three weeks if possible. It happens, and it took me for a ride, but once I bonded with this dog, I had no more anxiety. Personally, I would never adopt from a rescue agency again. My s/o can’t ask me a question (about anything) without me breaking down. We haven't been getting on very well. Live in an apartment building with a lot of neighbors? If there’s any initial thoughts you could give me I would be most grateful. A year ago, in early 2020, I started looking for another dog that could join our family and our two other dogs. By the end of the week, our vet (we went to two) told us that A) he was not 8 weeks B) he had severe distemper and pneumonia and C) they had to put him down. To go with Meowzart and The Great Catsby the kitten is named Purrcasso. That meant she was in constant flight mode (she’s not a fighter). The dog does better with the more social cat, but still chases him as soon as he moves. But her fosters are overwhelmed and don’t really know what to do/can’t do anything with her either, so what are her options? I knew he was coming with a bad ankle and some issues with crating but the reality turned out to be much different. What if…”. Around 9 months he became fearful around dogs he didn’t know and became aggressive if they got to close to him. Yup, she came around. It has taken a lot of work (and money – behaviorists and trainers aren’t cheap but we would pay a mint if we had to) to get him this far and it will surely take a lot of work to get where he needs to be (Patience should be our #1 vocabulary word but that is sometimes hard to remember). Thanks for posting so I could read others stories, and while I still feel some guilt and shame, and wonder if I could have pushed through and come out the other side with a wonderful companion, this has helped me see that sometimes it’s also just not a match and I should trust that. Not to get too off track, but I think that lends itself to his dog aggression, but I don’t think it makes him a more dangerous dog than others.) My beloved boy climbed into that stranger’s truck with no idea what was awaiting him. Don’t keep living like this, life is hard enough! About Us | Despite his sweet cuddly personality, I wondered if I’d chosen the wrong dog. The other two dogs and the 17 year old cat and I love her and we are in Open training. The Great Catsby is horrified that we’ve brought this thing into his house. I understand that he’s my first ever responsibility as an adult, but I wonder if I’m too young and potentially setting him up to be rehomed in a few years when I have to move or want to move far away. For the most part, any dog of any size or age needs at least an hour-long walk every day, bare minimum. And, about that “next family”–I can not tell you how many people I’ve worked with hesitated to rehome a dog because they didn’t believe there was someone else out there who could/would take care of it. While she did great in the shelter, it was soon apparent that there would be some assembly required – hundreds of pieces to put together and a few of those pieces were missing. I hope anyone reading this post knows that it’s ok to return a pet, its ok to feel discourage, horrible, fearful, and upset about your pet, its ok to consider alternative options for your pet that may not include you, and its ok to put yourself first in dog ownership. All dogs love a good run around the great outdoors, most cannot…. The truth is I’m not ready to love fully again, it really hurts me cause I’m still depressed. The first two weeks she was true to form, and then the barking began. They’re great dogs – well trained, well socialized with people and other dogs, non-destructive, easy to travel with, still playful and generally a joy to have in our lives. She doesn’t have crystals or stones, no UTI and no bladder issues or tumors. Why I Don't Regret My COVID-19 Pet I Rescued My Dog Amid COVID-19, and It May Have Been Wild, but I Don't Regret It ... and I'm sure plenty of people adopted a … But poor Eli came here for a week and then we went to the cottage for 3 weeks. I have no idea what to do. I am a single 26yo who adopted a 7mo puppy at the end of March. No issues whatsoever. Related read: Why Won’t My Dog Make Eye Contact with Me? I think every baby that’s born finds himself or herself in a similar position, but we never blame the baby for “bad” behavior. It’s what I love to do. Our drive home from the vet clinic went really well (despite it being a 5 hour journey). (3s!) Sending you a hug, because it’s okay. Find a trainer, friend with good experience, you’re not in this alone. This puppy is a result of my boyfriends family breeding their dogs and this last one was taking a while to sell. The last year of her life was very intense and I dont begrudge a minute but I also felt that I needed a break from the intensity and to recover from her loss. Within a few days, he got very, very sick. I don’t want to fail at this. But I find myself in this situation now and I hate it. Then she has accidents. Holy cow! We haven’t been back since (I don’t think we ever will, trainers and vets have long told me that dog parks are not great places). Just brought in an 8 wk old pup to my household of 4 existing dogs ranging in age from 8 mos to 5.5 yrs. I think carving out even 30-45 minutes a day (at least three days a week) for those first few weeks and working on things that are important to the new family is key to sucess. And a referral to a great therapist who could help you with your anxiety… like many it is no doubt so much worse cuz of Covid. It was when we read his story that we thought we couldn’t wait. He dies often like to sit in lap. He was surrendered by his original family at 6 months with a severe case of Parvovirus. I finally had to pull him out of daycare because he kept landing in timeout for attacking and pinning other dogs. She does want to destroy our kids stuffies and is now showing interest in tearing up books, and she also tries to counter-surf and table-surf (I am trying to teach her to “leave it” but she keeps coming back). Just go back to treating her as if she was a puppy–outside often, food treats immediately after she goes, never punish an accident… All paws crossed for you! You don’t have to decide today, and if taking her back is best for her and you, well then, it’s a huge success. ), so make it 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15, and come back while she is still comfortable. My significant other and I have lived together for 5 years. He is not suffering terribly. That’s when we found out she was a Basenji Hound/mix because she would yodel and scream so loud that my neighbors would call me at work because they were worried about her. If you do decide to keep your pup and send to a board and train, make sure it’s not a punitive based one, especially with puppies. The same happened to Jimpa. Running around with other dogs and her siblings all day. After a few days – in which we all fell in love with him – it became clear that he hated other dogs (except one) and was prepared to rid the world of them. I just got a dog from clean the shelter out and I was so happy. My daughter volunteers at a horse rescue place. He was very reluctant to make any eye contact. Whatever the reason you feel you need to send a dog back, please, please go to a no-kill rescue/shelter with processes in place to ensure your dog finds the right home. She previously had a fenced yard and were told she was afraid of the leash (We do not have a fenced yard. Another example: everybody loves Collies. I’m a pitbull kinda girl (have rescued, fostered, foster-failed to adopt pibbles). I have not stopped crying. He was guarding EVERYTHING. I need to give us time three days, three weeks and three months and I think we will all be feeling better. We were in an apartment. Our cats are inside cats who had only lived with a dog who had been strictly trained by a previous set of cats, so that was vital. I hate myself cause I love animals, I really do. I just adopted a 2 year old pitty from animal control. He loves playing with other dogs so I just took deep breaths and told myself he would come around over time. Massage appts, or whatever helps you feel sane and able to relax. My little dog is very mouthy and wants to be the boss at all times. It is remarkable that so many people have sacrificed so much and worked so hard to help a new dog. He’s a GOOD sweet lovely dog, whose only issues are most likely just puppy-related, or potentially just to do with the fact that he didn’t have much love before (apparently he was kept in a cage outside and his owners just decided they didn’t want him after all…). I think you are wise to keep her out of dog parks, but perhaps, one day, you might find a dog that she does do well with. He has not hurt anyone. I hadn’t raised a puppy in many years. Diamond is a large dog, they were renting a very small house, and they already had two cats. They’re beautiful, intelligent, biddable and make great family pets. And, if worst comes to worst, and you decided to rehome her, it’ll be painful, but bearable. I sat on the floor of my apartment and cried and cried and cried. In February 2016, after his own dog was killed by the neighbor’s, a local sheep shearer bought a female Border Collie puppy (8 weeks old). Why Won't My Dog Make Eye Contact with Me? Then I send him back into his crate. They can come with trauma from previous experiences that you need to help them get over. You are Wonder Woman, Heroine, Dog Lover Extraordinaire. We feel like failures to our sweet Bo (who continues to be sweet and calm when we are all home alone and really is the best snuggler). I don’t have the funds for daily dog walking or daycare which makes me feel even more irresponsible. Oh Man! Since then though he’s revealed some serious leash aggression and growling at the slightest noises in my apartment building (which, inconveniently, is full of dogs that we encounter on every walk). Luckily the other owner quickly grabbed my dog but i felt horrible. We flew the dog to Denver from Mississippi. constantly but I can hold a huge hunk of ham in his face and be haspyand if there is a squirrel, I just dont exist. I have cried, prayed, read blog posts and talked to friends/family. Someone who uses positive training techniques will be able to help you address any unwanted behaviors if you’re willing to put in the work. To Jill with Bossy: Argh, so sorry that Bossy has constrained your life so much. Regards, and maybe because my pack is wonderful and stable. And hats off to the rescue group. Thank you for your post it has really resonated with me. A little over a week ago I adopted a puppy from our local shelter. She is also really timid with most new people. It took about 5 weeks for everyone to settle in and for me to feel comfortable with the dogs in the same space without me directly supervising. my other dog she never goes inside the house. You see, Jimpa had come to our world with no user manual or “how-to” guide. She is a specialty pup and she is missing a paw and I feel so worried if I did rehome that she wouldn’t have a family that would want to deal with her missing a paw. The shelter suggested maybe I start walking him at 5 a.m. and THEN told me he’d been there at keast twice with a history of aggression. If you were looking, that is. Maybe more so than worrying every moment? I went down the hall to the bedroom and she had gotten up and peed on the bedroom floor before she apparently came into the kitchen. I was told my middle aged rescue collie walked well on a leash, was socialized with cats, dogs and children. https://www.flickr.com/photos/33350160@N02/albums/72157686741907585. Having Ivy as an only dog child was the easiest thing in the world. There are always problems. Over the course of a year, Glory & I took every class they offered and Glory went to day care 2 days a week. 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